Like a lot of parents, I thought I had tried everything I could to help my son Harrison with potty training.
- 3 different potty’s (yes even a talking one)
- Bribery with stamps, toys, sweets and sprinkle bread
- The good old chart
- Asking every mothers group and mum I knew for advice
- Taking nappies off
- Underpants with nappy on
- Following me and Daddy to the toilet
When I spoke to Day Care, they said he just wasn’t interested when there were bikes to ride and games to play. He would just wet himself and keep playing.
Harrison also had limited speech, so I was struggling and he was not enjoying it at all.
After lots of tears from both of us, tantrums, exhaustion and Mummy Guilt, I knew I needed to stop pushing and find a happier, easier way for both of us. I needed to remember what we did for fun and what Harrison enjoyed the most. So I sat down next to my husband and said, I am just going to write my own book for Harrison!
It took a few drafts and several changes before I had finally finished a fun, personalised, rhyming book to encourage him to go to the toilet.
I called it “Potty training day”.
Potty training day books concentrate on 3 things only to ensure success.
1/ The Child
Using Harrison’s name in the book was extremely important for me because it made him “the star”. When children are reading about themselves and hear their name, it’s priceless and it works , so I constantly repeat it on the first 6 pages.
Making the book simple to remember is exactly what was needed. Harrison didn’t understand what to do and how to do it easily without getting upset, so I focussed on what we could see, do and find together and used rhythm and rhyme with the wording because it makes learning fun and helps sustain interest.
3/ Positive recognition from the parent
I realised that when I played games with Harrison, he enjoyed being part of it because the play was personalised and I always praised him when he tried and gave him lots of positive feedback.
For example, I would always say his name when we were playing. I would smile and tell him it’s okay if he didn’t catch the ball because we would just practice more.
It was okay if he dropped sprinkles on the floor when we made cupcakes. I would say his name, smile and let him know it was an accident , and we would just clean it up.
So I decided to put all those words and positivity into the books